Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Milestones and Numbers.

I think I was that kid. When I was 13 I wanted to be 16. When I was 16, I wanted to be 18. When I was 18 I wanted to be 22. Then it stopped. I stopped wanting what was bound to come anyways. My dad said to me in college, "You're going to miss this". He was right.

As I'm packing to go down to San Antonio for my BABY sister's bachelorette party, I'm surprised by the emotions it brings out. She is getting married. That's a milestone in anyone's life. Luckly, I was raised without expectations or limits regarding age and milestones. And for this I am thankful.

When I think of her getting married, it has never occurred to me that she is 25. I was married at 23. My best friend is not married and she is 27. Many cousins older than me are not yet married but thats awesome! There are 16 year old moms, my mom had me at 28, my friend is pregnant for the first time at 36. Age is just a number. It should not be a measuring stick for success.  Getting married, having kids, graduating from college are all milestones that we meet when we get there and regardless of age, they are very special.

We have all been in that situation where you are buying a bridal or baby shower gift every weekend and you start to get invitations for baptisms, and 1st birthday parties. I've been there when people start asking the BIG questions. "When are you getting married?" "When are you having kids?" "When are you moving out?" Honestly,what does it matter? Are you going to be less happy for me if I wait a few years? Not in a mean way but what if the answer is, "I don't know" or maybe its, "We are trying."? Are you going to give me some advice that will get me there sooner? Will doing it sooner guarantee a better marriage, better children? Probably not. Society does this to us and we feed into it but the freedom you feel when you disregard numbers is truly life changing.

So break the mold. Take your life into your own hands and go with God's plan. We are each a testament to His grace and mercy. Relase the pressure, the boundaries, the expectations.
Buy a house or don't.
Go for your dream job or quit your job.
Go back to school or pack up and travel.
Cut your hair. Wear red lipstick.
Whatever you do, remember that age is just

Im in my 20s and I feel "50" somedays and "18" the next. What does that even mean? Why can't a 20 something enjoy knitting? Why shouldn't she wear cheetah print heels? Now I work with college students everyday and I hope they are ageless. I hope you are and I hope I am.

Do something that breaks the age limit today.

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